When To Say I Love You

It can be awkward trying to tell when it's the right time to tell your significant other these famous words "I love you”, after all saying I love you can be as monumental as your first kiss, but as awkward as your first time. The pressure of not knowing when it’s the right time to declare your love to the other person can be complex but hopefully I can shed some insight if you’ve been hit by Cupids Arrow. Is there such thing as a right time? The notion that love grows in all of us at a different pace cannot simply be ignored, the harsh reality is that you may be ready to say it, but your partner may not. Conventionally women have been noted to fall “head over hills” in love with a man first before the man generally does and divulging “I love you”, however new research might change those notions.

According to Broadly, the reason men are quicker to say 'I love you' may be because women are biologically predisposed to be pickier when selecting a partner. So women are pickier then men? Not in my opinion, I believe that it’s all circumstantial and based on the specific person allowing a man to be just as picky as or maybe even pickier than a woman. Are you sure you are in love with the other person, or is the sexual chemistry too good to be true. Lust is a powerful emotion, the desire to be with someone just to fulfill your sexual appetite can often times increase the level of comfort that drives a person to say I love you, so in essence you may not be ready to say I love you, you may just be horny. Now that we’ve attacked "The Lust" concept, let’s get to those who might be really ready to declare those three words to their significant other. If you can answer these four questions below, you might be ready to say the big L word to your mate:

         Do you remember your partner’s birth date?    

        Could you wait to have sex if they wanted to?

        What is your partner’s favorite food?

        Where do you see you and your partner in the next 5 years?

Just these simple four questions can determine the right time to tell your mate that you love them.  If you remembered your partners birth date, it shows that you can recall an important occasion to that person that shows care and maturity, no one like when there birthday has been forgotten.  Could you wait on sex, if your partner asked? For some abstinence maybe a deal breaker, but for others looking into the long term success of a relationship would probably enjoy the longevity of waiting. If you are willing to wait, it shows you are more than willing to put the needs of that person before your own and that my friend is awesome. Attention to detail is always the road map to “Heart City” the simplicity of what your partners favorite food is tells a lot about your ability to pay close attention in the time you spend with them, you remembered something that is significant to them. The last question concept was designed to give you security, if you can’t stretch far enough into the future to see where you’d like to be with your mate in five years, don’t even part your lips to say “I”.

If you can’t answer at least these questions, I am happy to tell you that you are not in love, you’re in lust. If you were able to answer these questions, it might be the right time to let the other person know that you actually “L” word them! Your feelings are valid ,so don’t be afraid to explore them,  let it out, say it loud “I LOVE YOU”!

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